Are you ok? Mom Edition

In today's society, it is so easy to get wrapped up in all the roles we play. I am a mom of three, a wife, and a supervisor. Recently I realized I was not okay.

I wanted to start a movement and a blog to normalize the fact that it is normal to not always be okay. One big thing that triggered me was my daughter noticing I was not okay. She is 7 and looked at me and said, "Mom, are you okay?" When I asked her why she asked, her response was, "You are always asking how other people are, but I can look at you and tell you are not okay."

Honestly, for a 7-year-old to have that intuitiveness was impressive, but it hit my core. I realized I was not okay and I was hiding it.

I recently started a new job in January, and it is remote and at the supervisor level. I have had my colleagues not be so nice and blatantly rude because I am a supervisor and had to set standards in place.

At home, I felt stuck in this everlasting routine. Wake up, make lunches, work, fix dinner, bath, put to bed, 30 minutes with my husband, and then bed. Overall, it was exhausting and very repetitive.

I decided to engage in conversations with several different people and let them know I was struggling and just not okay. The response was not what I expected. I honestly don't know what I was expecting, but it was not to be gaslighted or blown off.

I have always been an overachiever at checking in on my friends (or at least I thought I had). I am becoming more self-aware of how important it is to check-in. Not everybody will admit they are struggling, but to offer some support and just being there, I think is so important.

To get to my point for this particular post: Life gets busy, and we make the excuse of, "Oh, I got distracted," or "This is a difficult conversation to have." Having tough conversations can help save a life and hopefully relieve the feeling of not being okay.